Day 124 (A Hundred & Twenty-Four) of 365 days
If you don’t want to dwell on what could have been, you have to let go of what could have been and trust in what can be. This may sound simplistic, even spiritual, but stick with me. Let’s dive into this whimsical possibility together. If you want to make peace with your past, you’ll need to let go of this dream that your past could have gone any other way and trust that how it went is how it was meant to go.
To stop dwelling on what could have been, you’ve got to see that what you have been being what was needed. It’s what he needed at this particular time. It’s what you needed as you flesh out who you are when all the ideas you have for yourself melt and fade.
To stop dwelling, you’ll need to accept that what you did and who you are, and what you gave was exactly right. That it wasn’t supposed to go differently. That it never was going to last, and not because you aren’t worth committing to but because life has a reason to turn you loose again. Get curious about that reason.
When I first started college, I had enough “what ifs” to build an entire country. What if I’m too old? What if I can’t handle being a student? What if going back to school will be too much of a financial burden? What if I can’t learn fast? What if, what if, what if…
I finally had the nerve to just kick the “what ifs” off of the boat and take the plunge into the sea of dreams. You can conjure up all of the “what ifs” that your mind will allow, but that energy is better spent working toward your goals.
I am going to assume that if you put your life’s dreams on the back burner, it’s because they seemed insurmountable at the time. I am not telling you that it will be a walk in the park because that has not been my experience, but I will say that taking each piece bit by bit makes it a lot easier to chew.
Don’t dwell on the past and do not worry too much about the future; just…be.