Day 250 (Two-Hundred & Fifty) of 365 days
People sometimes mistake protecting their territory as malice keeping. That one decides to stay away from a group of people because of one reason or the other does not mean they bear grudges. It’s possible to have a grudge against someone and also stay away. In this case, it is called malice. It’s also possible not to bear any grudge but yet keep a distance.
The same goes for those who have found the essence in life. Those who know that life is for a limited period (but eternity is limitless) and one does not have to be friends with everybody. People going in the right direction have done some work on themselves (with the help of God) and wouldn’t permit anyone not going in the same direction as they are to come near them. Sometimes these people could be seen as being snobbish or not sociable but they know what they are doing. Time is too precious to be wasted on irrelevances, too much of everything leads to destruction but moderation is key. Few right friends are better than dozens of wrong ones and when you find the right friend(s), be sure to keep them close to your heart.
it is not always good to keep malice in a relationship. Always try to be open and communicate in the relationship.
if you are hurt, tell your friend or partner you don’t like what was done, and both of you will sort it out. That’s far better than keeping malice and corroding the relationship. Sometimes, he or she may not know they annoyed you. keeping malice will only make things worse. On the other hand, being open will help build the relationship.
The offence is something that cannot be eradicated from any relationship, being it a romantic one or others. Every relationship comprises of different individuals who have their philosophy, the perspective of viewing things, and attitudes that might be contradictory with their partner’s or folk. This contrary opinion and philosophy can breed room for disagreement between the parties involved. Like I earlier enumerated – offence is one trait that is common in every relationship, hence; it becomes important for partners to devise the practice of tolerance, patience, love and understanding in dealing with one another - but a situation where a person becomes unforgiving and resentful, as such; bears grudges against his or her partner is considerably wrong and has its negative effects.
Medical science has revealed that people who are in the continuous habit of bearing grudges and resentment for others are liable to experiencing a heart attack and other respiratory-related issues. This cause can be traced to the accumulation of negative thoughts of hatred and bitterness in one’s mind – which tends to cause depression, anxiety and an unhealthy state of the body. Studies have shown that these aforementioned effects can eventually amount to a severe health problem, while in most cases; heart attack.
We always assume we know the other person, like they say, “in toto”. But you see because we are humans we surprise ourselves when faced with certain situations so it’s never safe to assume you know the other person.
Agreeing to resolve issues helps you find new ways to deal with each other and celebrate each other when the storm is over.
