Day 304 (Three-Hundred & Four) of 365 days
Knowing your worth is a very personal thing and it has nothing to do with anyone else. It’s your internal measure of how you value yourself REGARDLESS of what other people might think of you or say to you. A personal manifesto is a declaration of your beliefs, a powerful set of statements. It can be your tool to keep you mindful of your actions on the road to success.
Knowing your worth is an insurance policy for your mental well-being and affects every aspect of your life. Low confidence makes us doubt our abilities. It prevents us from setting ambitious goals and having the resolve to go after them. This all can lead to poor quality of life. When you know your worth, you TRUST yourself and the decisions you make. You have more confidence and don’t question yourself, hence you can act quickly and seize opportunities as they happen.
Knowing your worth is not a scapegoat for an entitlement. It doesn’t mean that one day you decide you are perfect and deserve so much more than what you already have. That’s not the point at all. If anything, it’s an empowerment to self-growth! As always, you need to be HONEST with yourself. Make a realistic assessment of who you are and that includes areas that can be improved and worked on. We are constantly evolving. Recognizing areas of improvement, working on bad habits, and introducing new, good ones will ultimately take your self-worth to a new level. That’s right! It can be a self-fulfilling prophecy!
People accept shitty jobs and relationships because they do not respect themselves enough to realize they deserve better. Too many people become complacent in these aspects and stop striving for greater things. Relationships become detrimental when self-respect is lacking. You wind up hurting the other person and yourself. You need to love yourself enough to choose the ones that make you happy and motivate you to grow.
The need to impress, please, and compare ourselves to other people all the time is one of the most common causes of self-loathing. As long as you’re trying to please other people and live up to their expectations, you will not be pleasing yourself. What I’ve learned is that happiness does not come from pleasing other people. Happiness comes from feeling content with your own life and goals. Life does not come with a rulebook or deadlines for accomplishing certain things. I used to always think that I needed to be at the same level as everyone else my age. Life is not a race or a contest. Have faith in the fact that you are exactly where you need to be at this very moment in time and as long as you’re content, don’t let anyone convince you that you’re not where you need to be. You be the judge of what you want to change in your life and then do it for you.
Know your value and don't accept being treated in a way less than you deserve. Now, I don't mean to start going out there with unrealistic expectations, demands and a sense of entitlement. I am saying that you deserve to be treated the way you treat others, and vice versa. The minute you negotiate your self worth and accept less, you say to the universe that you don't deserve any better, and the vicious cycle/pattern begins. Change for yourself and of course, friends and partners are great mirror reflections that help you grow. But don't change out of the wrong reasons to appease someone or in hopes that they will like you more. If they judge you for who you are now, they aren't your fit.