Day 95 (Ninety-five) of 365 days

Life is all about growing up. Maturing and learning from mistakes. Easily forgiving, easily letting go, easily forgetting. And I believe that to grow up, you need to learn to never hold a grudge. Holding grudges, we have all done it before, we have all held something against someone for a while.

Sometimes there is a good reason and can benefit but most of the time the situation is so dumb that we forget why it happened and continue to have a problem. Holding grudges are an actual problem and can lead to violence and unhealthy life and just isn’t worth it.

Holding grudges are an actual problem and can lead to violence and unhealthy life. When we hold on to grudges and don't allow ourselves the gift of forgiveness, we remain tied to the source of our heat and pain. The person you choose not to forgive is living in your head rent-free. That very person is zapping your creative energy, affecting your decisions, and destroying your relationships with the people you love. Decide who you rent space in your mind to. Always remember that you're not a victim. Even when you are boiling mad, you have the power to determine your destiny and to be the better person

If you are holding a grudge, know that you don't have to. It's not easy to let go of the resentment, but it's within the boundaries of what humans are spiritually and emotionally capable of. You'll have to train your mind not to hold grudges, and with enough practice, it will become second nature. Like a practiced tennis player standing at the baseline, you'll be ready to automatically dismiss negative thoughts about other people as soon as they come up.

Why should you hold grudges when they are quite painful to maintain, and often seem to work against what we want? Why do we keep wound open and open, living in past experiences of pain which prevent the new experience from being able to happen?

If you can’t give a positive answer to those questions, then holding grudges isn’t worth it, let go!